Spring Time In The City

Spring time is by far my favorite season with Fall coming in at a hard second!! There’s something about the colors and the newness of spring that makes me feel rejuvenated. Its like God is speaking through his beautiful creations….Nature. Its also a great time for fashion! I love expressing the Spring season through my outfits. Some of my favorite colors are yellows and pinks. I have even taken a liking to lavenders. I would love to share with you guys how I pair items together to create the perfect Spring look. I will also be shouting out some boutiques for you to check out as well.

Flaunt Your Season!!

During Spring (or any season), I love to wear colors that compliment the season. Makes it more alive! As you know, yellow is one of my favorite seasonal colors, so when I saw these amazing yellow flare pants, I had to snag them!! Flare has made such a huge comeback and should be in every girls wardrobe. These comfortable flair pants paired with this cute simple crop top made for the perfect Spring outfit. To add a little pizazz, as I did, throw on a cute hat. A super easy way to dress up a causal outfit.

Another great seasonal color that I love is blue. Powder and baby blues are such soft cozy colors and such suitable colors for the season. This maxi dress from Subtle & Sass Boutique (@subtle_and_sass) is perfect for the everyday woman. I love clothing that can be used in a variety of settings. This dress is that. Great for church or brunch, this dress wont disappoint. To be a little extra as I usually am, I adorned my head with a flower headband. What types of accessories do you like?

I love a nice pair of jeans! I found my perfect jean shopping at Fashion Nova. Skinny, bootcut or flare, their jeans provide the best stretch and accentuates my assets in the perfect way! I love a good dark wash because it makes colors pop. Paired with this tropical off the shoulder top and wedged sandals, this outfit screams HAPPY HOUR!

Jumpsuits will forever remain a staple in my wardrobe because its easy..its literally a whole outfit in one! A little hack for those who are fashion challenged. Jumpsuits come in a variety of styles and colors and even range from really casual to super dressy! You cant go wrong with one.

Strolling Downtown in this rusty orange number with white accessories. The white really brightens everything up to create a clean look. Finding colors that can be easily matched with other colors is a good rule of thumb because you can essentially create many looks using the same base. Work smarter, not harder.

Its Fashion. Have Fun!!

Looking your best doesn’t have to be hard. Find your comfort zone and work from there. Fashion is suppose to be fun and a way for people to express themselves. Don’t make it harder than it has to be. Experiment with colors and styles. Get dressed up and take fun pictures. Life in itself already comes with challenges and trial. Your closet doesn’t have to.

I hope you guys enjoyed this content and have found new ways to style and add to your wardrobe. Thank you so much for the continued love and support. Stay safe amidst this crisis and a always God Bless. xoxo

30 & Running Out of Time

What Just Happened!?

Have you ever sat and thought, “Wow!! This year really flew by!” With every speeding year that flies by, we get older…and older..and…older. The more birthdays you have, the more you began to realize that you’re getting older and time is running out. The anxiety begins to kick in as you think of all the things you haven’t accomplished yet. Maybe you don’t have the cookie cutter life that society wants you to think you should have. You know the one. Married by 23. Two children. A house on the hill with the white picket fence? Yea, that one. Is that really realistic? Is it fair for society to put those type of expectations on someone? Regardless of your answer, we know that it happens and it is a very real societal pressure that we’re going to delve into today. Grab your wine glass ladies!!

How We Got Here

In many cultures, men and women are expected to be married and have children by a certain age. I was reading a blog post that in Chinese cultures, if a woman is in her 30’s and still unmarried, she is considered a “leftover” or undesirable. In African culture, the father picks a husband for his daughter and there is immense pressure for you to be married early and have children. My father is from Senegal, West Africa and I have definitely felt the pressure of this age old tradition. Can you imagine the choice of being forced to keep up tradition or to be an embarrassment to you family? The black sheep even.

These standards are felt even more if you live in the South!! As you’re scrolling through social media, you see proposal after proposal and pregnancy announcements. Its not unlikely that this will lead you to believe that you’re missing out or that somethings wrong with you. Honey, there isn’t ANYTHING wrong with you! These close minded traditional views are tiring.

Anything you do in life should be done because of YOUR passion and desire to do it. Not because your family is pressuring you or because you don’t want to feel left out.

It makes you wonder how many people rushed to get married or have children because they didn’t want to be looked at as “damaged” , awkward or as a “leftover”.

Don’t Succumb To The Pressure!!

As a woman who is in her 30’s AND a single mom, I have felt these pressures on a whole other level!! Coming from a Christian background on my mothers side and an traditional African background on my fathers side, the pressure is real to not disappoint anyone. From my own personal experiences in life as well as seeing “epic fails” in other peoples lives, I have learned that:

  • You CANNOT live for someone else. Some people failed in their own lives and endeavors so they try to project their failed dreams onto you in hopes of reliving that moment they lost. They lived their life. Live yours!!
  • Do what YOU’RE comfortable with and what makes you happy. Some people take jobs because their parents said so. Some people marry because their family said so or pressure from society caused them to fold. At the end of the day, can you sleep at night with the decisions you’ve made or will you live in regret?
  • Be CAREFUL who you ask for advice. When someone gives you advice they’re are sharing based on THEIR perceptions and beliefs. If someone married for money because they didn’t want to work or because they wanted to secure themselves financially then their advice to YOU may be to do the same thing regardless of love.

If It Makes You Happy

I don’t want this to turn into a soapbox session but I just want to encourage men and women to slow down and take a breath. Enjoy your life at every moment and know that God makes no mistakes. As we grow anxious and impatient, what may seem like an eternity for us is only seconds to God. Allow him to create the masterpiece that you deserve. That masterpiece could be a job you’ve been waiting for, a house, a husband/wife or even the ability to conceive. Whatever your desire is, it will all work out in the end and it will be well worth it.

I hope you guys enjoyed this read! Thanks for tuning in. Continue to be safe. Continue hygienic practices to avoid getting sick and as always, be blessed!! xoxo

New Year, New Goals

Happy New Year guys!! We made it into another year.. another DECADE!! How crazy exciting is that!? I was listening to an elderly man speak at church on Sunday and he said how foreign the year 2020 sounded to him. Like something out of a science fiction movie. As mind blowing as it may be, WE MADE IT!! Whose ready for a prosperous year?

I had 3 weeks of vacation for winter break and I enjoyed every second of it. I had time to sit and meditate on how good 2019 was and what goals I’d like to accomplish in 2020. Creating a visual or writing down what you’ve done and accomplished in the past will help you paint a more accurate visual for your future goals. After doing this for myself, I realized that my goals for 2020 would be pretty simple because I had already laid the groundwork in 2019. Pretty neat huh!?

I am starting with 4 solid goals for this year. I believe that these will be fairly easy to achieve due to the work I’ve done last year. You guys just snagged front row seats to what my goals are for 2020. Enjoy!

End Procrastination

One of my goals for the new year is to stop procrastinating. I can be sitting in front of my laptop preparing a new blog post and suddenly my mind will go blank. Instead of working through the brain fog,(omg.. its happening now) I just put it off and say “ill do it later on.” Of course “later on” never comes. Procrastinating will only set you back and I’m only moving forward in 2020!!

Homeowner??

Could this year be my year to be an official homeowner? In 2019, I dedicated the whole year to getting my finances and bills in order. There is nothing better than having a peace of mind financially and not worrying about bill collectors calling you or beating down your door. This was a big goal of mine and accomplishing that goal was a breath of fresh air. Another challenge that I began to work on was budgeting. Creating all of these healthy habits was something I wanted to have before purchasing my first home. I truly believe that when I step foot into my new house, I wont have a lot of unnecessary stress because of those steps I took prior to making this huge purchase. The most expensive thing you’ll ever buy!

Networking In Action

My 3rd goal for the new year is to put my networking skills in action. Over the past year, I’ve had the chance to meet and network with different business owners, photographers and other bloggers locally and afar. This year I will be taking those connections and putting them into action. Without giving too much away, I have a few projects that I’m working on and I’m excited to see them come alive. Stay tuned.

Be Intentional

2019 was such a whirlwind of excitement and challenges and one take away from those experiences was to remember to be intentional in everything you do. What do I mean by be intentional? When you do something, don’t just do it to do it. Do it with PURPOSE! Do it with conviction. Hold yourself accountable and be consistent. You’ve already done the work, do yourself a favor and be intentional. You owe it to yourself.

In Conclusion

Thank you for sticking me as i try to find the best schedule to bring you all consistent entertaining content. I am still learning and growing and i thank you for seeing something in me that made you want to subscribe.

I came across this quote that said, ” Winners are not people who never fail, but people who never quit.” Let that quote be motivation for you. It doesn’t matter if you fail once or twice. What matters is are you going to get up, dust yourself off and try again? Stay safe and be blessed. xoxo

Social September!!

Hey guys!!!! Omgoodness!!! Can you believe how fast this year is whizzing by? September is gone and October is here! After my 30th birthday, I began to resonate on how short life is and how quickly time goes by. Do those things you’ve been putting off. Take that vacation. Buy those shoes. Go Dancing. Fall in love. Time isn’t going to wait for you to do those things that you continue to put on the back burner.

September was such a great month (this whole year has been). It was a month of social gatherings and events. I had great opportunities to make new friends and meet other bloggers in the area.

Charleston has such an awesome social scene that I had never really focused on due to work and other priorities. Thank goodness for groups such as @lowcountryladies for hosting monthly events for women to get together and wind down..or turn up!! LOL

Parcel 32; located in King Street, is such a great space to meet for a luncheon or a girls night after getting off work. The upstairs Parlour area is BEAutiful!! IT’s definitely a must see. I cant wait for the next event.

Subtle & Sass

Have you ever wanted to have a shopping experience that was one to remember? An experience where you had your own personal stylist that served food and beverages for you to enjoy while you shop? If your answer is “Yes”, then you must check out Subtle & Sass. An indoor boutique beautifully ran with cute, comfy and trendy fashion in mind.

I, along a few other bloggers got the opportunity to participate in a photo shoot showcasing a few items from the collection. Working with Charleston photographer, Sami Fuentes (@sami.fuentes) was such a great experience. She showed great professionalism, patience and talent. Charleston has so many hidden gems and Subtle & Sass boutique is one of them !

Fitness Can Be Fun!!!

Have you ever started something and halfway through you realize you weren’t ready!? Well, that’s what happened to me when I decided to participate in a Citadel pre-game workout. Hosted by Oblique Magazine and Gunnar_Made, this intense workout was an awesome and fun way to get my cardio in (enough cardio for the year!!!LOL) and a great warm-up to the game that kicked off that evening.

The crew was awesome and the atmosphere was totally judgment free. If you felt like you were falling behind, someone was always there to push you along. If you are into fitness and/or looking for a trainer or fitness events in the Charleston area, I would definitely check out Gunnar_Made on Instagram and Oblique Magazine.

Hustle & Glow

I am always up for an opportunity to get glammed up!! This Hustle & Glow event, hosted by @hoangviton and Oblique Magazine, was such an awesome moment to show up and Glow up!! Upon showing up at the White Room, we were showered with drinks, food, and giveaways. There was even a panel of skincare specialists to educate us about how products work and what type of services they offer. If you are looking for an affordable estheticans, check out Guinot Institut. They are located in Mount Pleasant and soon opening another store in Summerville.

Make Time for You

Having the opportunity to meet some an awesome group of people has made me realize that its OK to take time out for me. Working is fine and dandy but please remember to unwind and relax. Find a local group and go to the social events. Meet new people. Make new friends. Time is short and memories are priceless.

As always guys, thank you for reading, Be safe and God Bless!! xoxo

Hello 30!!!!!!

Wow!!! I have officially entered the Dirty 30s! LOL I cant believe I’m 30 years old!! Wow! this is truly a blessing! You may be asking “How does it feel?” I can say it feels pretty good. I feel as though I have a better sense of self. But that definitely didn’t happen overnight. I feel like I have been supercharged with an ambition to go for everything within my reach and grasp for those things that are out of my comfort zone.

I recently transferred to a new position at work and I’m so exciting about that. I was nervous about making this move for years because I had gotten so comfortable in the position that I was in, but I realized to elevate you have to move out of your comfort zone. Sometimes being uncomfortable is good because it forces you to get up, get out and move to something bigger and better.

So yea guys, I didn’t prepare a long drawn out message or anything. I’m working on some cool content to bring forth and I hope you all enjoy it. I’m going to go and enjoy my birthday!! xoxo

Happy August!!! Issa Celebration!!!

OMGoodness Guys!!! August is here!! This year is zooming by so fast that I didn’t realize my birthday was approaching. We are 9 days away from me turning the big 30!!! WOW! what a great milestone. As time grows closer, I began to sit and realize the real true meaning of life. I remember a time where I felt lost and confused as to what my purpose in life was. As I’ve gotten older, its becoming more clear to me what the meaning of life is; to me of course.

When you are a child, life is pretty simple. You go to school, come home and play, eat and sleep. The most carefree times of your life. Then you get older and school becomes more rigorous and now you add in the pressures of fitting in as well as your plans for the future. Then you’re off to college and thrusted into the work force. Before you know it, your life has turned into school, work, study, (you might remember to eat) and the possibility of sleep. You never got to sit and find out what the meaning of life was.

The meaning of life can obviously be whatever you choose to make it. For me, the meaning of life is love. Spreading love and happiness. In my line of work, I’ve come across so many people who have given up. They have given up on life. They feel as though love and happiness has passed them by with no intention of returning. That look of despair on someones face really gets to me. My goal has been to try to offer a kind word or even a pat on the back. I’ve found that those little gestures can make someone feel human again. Helping others when they fall is another passion of mine. In this rat race of life, its easy to be pulled into the thought process that you have to kick as many people down for you to get ahead. I could never fall into that path because I know who holds my destiny. I know that whats for me will be mine and by me knowing that, it does me no good to kick someone when they’re down. Let us aspire to be that person that uplifts instead of tear down. The world has enough people “gettin a bag”, or backstabbing one another to get ahead. Lets be different and pick each other up. I promise you, whats for you will be yours.

It seems as though when you get older, life becomes more simple. You no longer care about the small things. I love the simplicity of this new view. Thank the Lord for bringing me this far and for the hills and valleys that I’ve been through. 9 more days!!! Woot Woot!!

Thank you guys for reading. Stop by IG page and tell me Happy Birthday! xoxo

Back To School Try On Haul

Its back to school time you guys!! Apricot Lane Charleston has stocked their shelves with amazingly cute pieces that’ll have you ready for school and ready for the fall. They have introduced a line of fun colorful sweaters that are so comfortably made and very lightweight. So, without further ado, why don’t we jump right in!

Yellow is by far one of my favorite colors. These pieces were very comfortable on the skin and not itchy at all like most sweaters tend to be. Different shades of yellow are perfect for summer as well as fall. These sweaters can be paired with your favorite shorts for the Summer OR your favorite pair of Denim and boots for the Fall.

Remember years ago when you were in elementary school, and your parents made you wear those ugly Corduroy pants…lol or was it just me!? Well they’ve made a comeback. These cute skirts are all the rave and perfect for the Fall. Can be paired with a cute top and cardigan or a cute sweater and your favorite pair of shoes.

Flare, flare , flare!!! Flare jeans have definetely made a comeback in today’s fashion scene. I have fallen in love with flare jeans and I had to add a few pairs to my own wardrobe. It totally take your outfit to another level. Lets bring back the 70s with style!

Don’t start the school year without checking out Apricot Lane Charleston. They will also be having a fashion show Tax Free Weekend. Come check the store out August 3rd! Thank you for checking out my try on haul. Be Blessed. xoxo

The Weekend Has Come to An End

Happy Sunday guys!! How was your weekend? Caden and I didn’t do anything spectacular but we made the most of what we did. On Friday, after getting home from work and picking Caden up from Summer Camp, we came home where I laid down to take a nap. I was supposed to go to a program at a local church, but once I laid down, my body was like “you’re not going anywhere” lol. Sometimes we have all of these ideas in our minds of what we’re going to do and our bodies simply have other plans. Our bodies has a way of telling us when its time to lay down and sleep.

On Saturday, we hung out at Top Dawg Tavern where they had Family Day. They had all types of things for the children to enjoy which was awesome. Caden was able to check out face painting, balloon animals/art, Kona Ice, and even the local animal shelter brought some cute puppies out for the kids to see. The restaurant also had a special going on for kids to choose from 5 different kids meals for only $4.95. It was a great way to get Caden out of the house for a little while.

We then stopped by Duck Doughnuts for a sweet treat! Caden got the Cookies and Cream Doughnut Sundae and I got the Salted Caramel. It was so delish!

After our little outing, we came home to nap before heading in to celebrate Apricot Lanes 4th Birthday!!! The theme for the party was “70s, 80s,& 90s Decades”. We all dressed up in our grooviest attire and welcomed customers into the store as they shopped. The sale was 50% off from 4-6. Pretty sweet huh!?

On Sunday, we attended church services and fellowshipped with family afterwards. I had planned to attend an event at 4pm, however, I began to feel very fatigued. I came home, got Caden settled and called it a day. Even though this weekend was very basic, we still got to do some things and most importantly, we had FUN! Sometimes simple is better. I hope you all had a great and safe weekend. Until next time, be safe and God Bless! xoxo

My Spa Experience

Bonjour everyone!! I hope you are reading this in great spirits. We are approaching the end of a fabulous week and I couldn’t let the week come to a close without a little ME time.

As productive members of society, we spend so much time working. Work, work, work, work!!! And when we’re done working, its time to cook dinner and get the kids to bed! When do we take time out, drop everything and pamper ourselves? Lately, the best way I treat myself is with monthly facials. Total game changer!! When it comes to skincare, I am always trying to be one step ahead. Your skin is everything! Its sort of like a mirror that tells it all. What you put into your body shows through your skin. So, one can imagine how excited I was to get my first facial.

After a recommendation from a friend and a few Google searches, I came across Totality Medispa; located on Daniel Island. What drew me into this place was (1) The awesome reviews that I saw online and (2) how great the person who recommended them skin looked! Her skin was so smooth and glowy, I just wanted the results she had.

So, I booked an appointment and went in. O-M-G! The decor in this place was so chic and welcoming. When I walked through the door I knew that I was in the right place. The booking process was super easy and the staff was friendly. I worked with Brittany and she was soooo sweet and VERY knowledgeable. Not only was she able to assess my skin and suggest products for my skincare needs, she also recommended other services that would suit my skin concerns as well.

This past visit, I was introduced to the Waterfacial. This service is a 3-step process that consists of Cleansing, Exfoliating and Infusing. This service is great for those suffering with acne, hyperpigmentation and even wrinkles. Now that you have an idea of what this service is, lets jump into the process! 🙂

The BEFORE

So my main skin concern is that I have hyperpigmentation on the left side of my face. I will admit, whenever I get a pimple, YES, I have to squeeze it!! That is the one thing you never want to do because then you’re left with scarring that then turns into dark spots (from sun exposure) and voila…now you’ve got a bigger problem on your hands.

So, we began the process by cleansing the skin. Quite obviously, cleansing the skin before going into a routine is essential because you want to remove any lingering oils or makeup. After Brittany cleansed my face, she applied a warm towel to open the pores and wipe the remaining product away from the skin.

After cleansing my skin, we moved on to the next step. During this step, Brittany went over my face with a Hydradermabrasion device. As she went over each section of my face, she began to decongest my skin by using a mild salicylic & glycolic peel. This was pretty cool and felt really tingly as she was doing it.

Step 3 was pretty cool and kinda gross. EXTRACTIONS!!! This process can be done a few ways. Either by hand or by using an extraction tool. Brittany used her hands and that was much better for me personally. During this process, she used her fingers to push on areas of my nose and began to push the gunk out. You could see the white beads coming out of my pores. GROSS….but cool.

After the extraction process, she used the same tool to push antioxidants into my skin. After the cleansing and exfoliating process, your skin can get dried out so they push those healthy antioxidants back into the skin for ultimate hydration.

After completing the hydrating process, she applies a serum to your face to protect and seal the skin. But wait…you’re not done yet. Brittany was so gracious to show me all of the crap that was sucked out my skin. Are you ready!?

This bottle was totally empty when we started. Pretty cool huh!?

After my Waterfacial Service, I was left with glowing hydrated skin. Although some have reported to seeing results after one visit, it is recommended to get monthly services. This is something that I personally will continue to incorporate in my skincare regimen and I will most definitely keep you guys updated on my progress.

These are the products currently used in my skincare routine. The Obagi line can be purchased at Totality Medispa

Au Revoir

I truly hope you enjoyed reading about my spa experience. If you’re ever in the Daniel Island area, check out Totality Medispa and book your appointment for your next pamper session. See you later and God Bless. xoxo

The Most Beautiful City

In 2018, Charleston, was ranked #1 by the Travel & Leisure magazine for 6 years in a row! I can certainly see why. From the history to the great food and culture to the amazing beaches, and Instagram picture worthy spots, who wouldn’t want to live in a place like this!?

I’ve had the great pleasure to work with several great photographers in the Charleston area (some traveling photographers as well) at some of the most scenic spots this city has to offer. If you love flowers at its fullest bloom and tons of color, check out my little list below:

  • Magnolia Plantation
  • Charlestowne Landing
  • Rainbow Row (Downtown)
  • Middleton Place

As we all know, a photograph is only as good as the photographer!! The model the plays a part as well, but i am a huge believer in giving credit where its due. I have had the pleasure and honor of collaborating and networking with very talented photographers and I would want you to have the same opportunity. If you want your moments captured, check out a few of these great photgraphers! 🙂

  • @samanthaclarke
  • @painted_bench_photography
  • @deseretbarnabiphotography
  • @jeffreybowensphotgraphy
  • @graddickphotography
Captured by @graddickphotography

If you are visiting this great city, I hope you are able to check out one of the spots mentioned above and plenty more! You wont be sorry. If you have the pleasure of living here already, what are some of your favorite spots? Leave a comment and lets network! Happy Hunting!!